A wonderful stroke of luck…

Photo by Jill Wellington on Pexels.com

Remember that sometimes not getting what you want, is a wonderful stroke of luck!

Dalai Lama

 “When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one that has opened for us. ” – Alexander Graham Bell

Similarly, “to reach a port, we must sail- sail, not tie at anchor- sail, not drift.”  Franklin Roosevelt, 1882-1945

Ever felt that way about life choices and happenings in choosing a partner or a career, or even friends?

Looking positively at life!



The light is still on…

The light is still on… (Haiku)

down the lane -Photo by Evgeny Tchebotarev on Pexels.com

the lights are still on

crows the morning cockerel

quiet lane observes


while others sleep on

soft nimble steps in kitchen

morning dawn’s breaking



Students and their emotional baggage.

Students and their emotional baggage.

group of people wearing face mask
Young students and their emotional baggage (Photo by cottonbro on Pexels.com)

I have taught diploma nursing students as well as degree and working nurses. The former group seems to have more unresolved issues than the latter. I got them to write an essay about their family and discovered the amount of emotional baggage some of them carried!

“I hate my lecturer parents! They are so strict! I have to go back home before 10.00 pm, and I can’t stay overnight at my friends’ house!” Some of the classmates agreed. But some explained that her parents were strict because they loved her! Now she is a successful entrepreneur and has teenaged children herself!

“My father used to beat us at home. He died of cancer when we were young. If God can give me my father back, I don’t mind being beaten a thousand times every day!” This girl got the whole class crying, including me! Now she is a nurse manager. She has two young boys.


  1. “Emotional baggage is like the dead skin of a snake. If you don’t shed it, how can you grow emotionally?” ― Khang Kijarro Nguyen
  2. “…anger helps us repel forces that are detrimental to our survival and well-being.”- Dalai Lama



Writing on an almost-deserted Covid-19 morning

Writing on an almost-deserted Covid-19 morning

I hung the clothes at the balcony. My family had reminded me to take my daily dose of vitamin D. But the sun was just rising. And the street lights were still on. So I stood and watched on.

joyful asian woman near rope with painted fabrics
Hanging clothes (Photo by Teona Swift on Pexels.com)

A lonely bus passed by. A lonely masked passenger slept against the window. She probably could not work from home.

I heard an approaching conversation blocked by the top of a tree. It seemed loud on a silent morning. Three men and a woman walked by leisurely as if they owned the whole width of the road! They skewered to the roadside at the sound of oncoming vehicle.

I was distracted by something darting about below. Two squirrels were chasing each other playfully around the pots of plants, while the morning birds criss-crossed up above. A lonely basketball stood at a corner of the garden, untouched for many moons already!

Where are the noisy school buses and the many parent- chauffeured school children? Where are the masked traffic-minders?

And I started to write on my mobile on this Covid-19 morning.



Covid-19 continues and the sky is crying.

Covid-19 continues and the sky is crying. (poem- a haiku)

thoughtful androgynous black woman standing near window at rainy day
the sky is crying (Photo by Klaus Nielsen on Pexels.com)

I sit in my room
the sky thunders and rumbles
as rain lashes down.

Covid-19 news
updates global statistics
of fatalities.

The sky is crying
for the sudden departures
of many loved ones.


Covid-19, the garbage truck and the reassuring smell

Covid-19, the garbage truck and the reassuring smell (poem)


It’s the garbage truck

overloading garbage spills

where comes these rubbish!


Market and food wastes

Smell of decomposing loads

yet reassuring!

photo of a dump truck across buildings
Decomposing garbage (Photo by Kelly Lacy on Pexels.com)

Humans seem to spew more rubbish than any other living beings on Earth!

Walking past a garbage truck or driving behind one, used to be an annoying experience.

Ironically, with Covid-19 around us, the smell seems tolerable and reassuring!

This is reassuring because loss of smell (anosmia) is one of the symptoms in diagnosing Covid-19!



I will give you the moon!

I will give you the moon!

woman holding a moon
I will give you the moon! (Photo by Ruvim on Pexels.com)

Who would go

to the end of earth

to ‘get you the moon’?

Your answer:-

  1. A sweetheart
  2. A spouse
  3. A parent
  4. A child



Ironically, In This Vastness Of Land

Ironically, In This Vastness Of Land

This is a poem, titled after a hand-painted bowl which was created by the author, a few years ago. Whereas, the poem is inspired by the many tragic news of perished immigrants on rough seas. They were trying to reach a better-land in this, ironically, vastness of land on mother earth.

In this vastness of land
“Painting is poetry that is seen rather than felt, and poetry is painting that is felt rather than seen.”
― Leonardo da Vinci

In this vastness of land 
stretching and circling this bowl
 round and round, but, to no end! 

From the bowl’s interior 
radiates that phosphorescent glow
 a beckoning promise, almost superior! 

Across the wide seas and oceans
 breaking families, risking lives 
to find that elusive ‘greener grass’ notions! 

On rough waters,  
human lives are inhumanly packed 
in overcrowded sea vessels 
clutching desperately to partners and wives.

 “I see the land, I see the land!” 
But it was, many a time,  
an illusion to touch beaches, 
to kiss the sand. 

Can you see the land, a better land? 
Will freedom be your stand 
in this vastness of land?


  1. “Remember, remember always, that all of us, and you and I especially, are descended from immigrants and revolutionists.” ― Franklin D. Roosevelt

2. “What has happened to us in this country? If we study our own history, we find that we have always been ready to receive the unfortunate from other countries, and though this may seem a generous gesture on our part, we have profited a thousandfold by what they have brought us.”
― Eleanor Roosevelt


When a non- Japanese got lost in Yokohama

When a non- Japanese got lost in Yokohama

smiling couple navigating with map on city street
Photo by Samson Katt on Pexels.com
Ravethy and I couldn't find 
the way back to our hotel.
The road signs then
were all in Japanese. 
Even the road map brochure
was of no help.
And, it was getting darker.

We were delighted 
when we saw a man in uniform.
He was very happy to help;
rattling away to me 
(in Japanese) 
both palms together 
pointing forwards,
then his right hand
 directing to the right... 
brushing aside my attempts 
with crossed hands 
and shaking head
to say I did not understand!
Sigh! We stood by
the road side again!
The baseball game was over at a nearby stadium. We were lucky to find a fellow Singaporean to explain the route to us. It was only a ten minutes walk away! That was in the 1990s. *******

Four years ago, I went back again to Japan. I found that more Japanese people could speak English. The signs and maps seem easier to read. I learned to speak some simple Japanese, too!

The uniformed man had mistaken me for a Japanese. Last week a fellow blogger addressed me as a Korean! Not long ago another thought I was a Taiwanese!

A face and a name can be misleading!

I am from Malaysia! My ancestors were from Hainan island, China.



Blogging: I run my race

Blogging: I run my race

Blogging is like running 
but running a race? 
I paused, I sweated,
feet apart, panting, 
and watching others 
... forging ahead.

Jane Trombley wonders
about the paucity of 
baby-boomer bloggers
and her generation's 'voice'.

A counselor opines
that blogging feeds wellness!
Is blogging a new way of coping
for some?

Of course, 
many baby-boomer bloggers
have joined the run.
but, are they running
the same race,
the same pace,
for the same goals?

1. Baby Boomer Bloggers: Are you out there? - Jane Trombley
2. Blogging feeds wellness!- Beth Moore
3. "Coping through blogging..." - Petko D. et al.
cute dog in glasses yawning on bed
Blogging: I run my race (Photo by Samson Katt on Pexels.com)

Four years degree course is not effective to provide productive workforce in manufacturing and economic development — Learnography

Four years degree course is not effective to provide productive workforce in manufacturing and economic development — Learnography

Primary school system deals with the development of the motor cortex of human brain known as motor learnography.

Secondary school system is designed to develop the proficiency of object language in the basal ganglia regions of brain known as basal learnography.

High level learning transfer occurs in university knowledge transfer system known as cerebellar learnography.

Students make brainpage in the learning process of classroom, instead of listening to teaching performance.

Please read more in:-

Four years degree course is not effective to provide productive workforce in manufacturing and economic development — Learnography


Big man, ‘small heart’!

Big man, ‘small heart’!

So much hype about vaccination in recent days. This reminds me of an incident many years ago.

There was this big-sized policeman in an emergency department. He was involved in a minor motor vehicle accident. When the nurse was about to give him an injection on his arm, he jumped out of his bed.

“No, no, no! Not on my arm… maybe my buttock. But wait, wait first!” It took some time before he exposed his back.

person holding injection
Are you afraid of injection? (Photo by RF._.studio on Pexels.com)

“No, no, no! Wait first!” He pulled back his pants.

“OK, let me wipe the skin first. I won’t give you the injection until you are ready. I will wait for you to count up to ten… slowly. Alright, start counting. Open your mouth wide and count!”

“…nine, ten!” And the nurse was already clearing her tray.

He asked, “are you not going to give me the injection?”

“Given already!” The nurse smiled at him as she walked away.

His wife apologized, “sigh! Such a big man, but such a small heart!”


Private hospital clients: we pay, so don’t make my mother…

Private hospital clients: we pay, so don’t make my mother…

In a private hospital (Photo by Erkan Utu on Pexels.com)

Ten days after

a major ostomy surgery,

Mimi’s mum was in so much pain!

“It’s already four hours.

Can you give her

another injection for pain?”

Mimi’s sister interjected,

“… And remember, we pay,

so don’t make

my mother moves!

Attend to her in bed!”


Ms Chen happened to do student

assessments in that hospital.

The nurses complained to her because

they knew this patient had a stoma

which is Ms Chen’s field.


Ms Chen found her abdomen

was so distended,

the skin was pulling

on the main suture line.

No wonder she was

in so much pain!


Gently coaxing her,

Ms Chen wound up her bed halfway,

“ouch, ouch, ouch..”


” bloop, bloop, bloop!”

Her stoma bag became full

with flatus!

We had to open the bag cover

to release the gas.

Ms Chen continued to wind up

the bed upright.

And more flatus came out

into her stoma bag

which was emptied another two times.

“Ah…I feel so much better now!”

She was relieved

as her abdomen was softer then.


Later we got her to sit out of bed.

I heard she didn’t need

the four hourly injection, thereafter.

She understood the importance

of ambulating after that painful episode!


When I was attached to an Australian hospital, an obese woman with similar abdominal surgery was wheeled into the bathroom for a refreshing shower on the third day post operation! A plastic sheet was taped to cover her wounds and stoma. ( Our Asian clients here will need some persuading to get out of bed for a shower in a bathroom!)

Nurses (especially in private hospitals) need to be firm when necessary, in caring for their clients to prevent complications. After an abdominal surgery, even the guts get lazy!

Peristalsis of the guts help to expel gas from the large intestines. Otherwise the abdomen gets bloated. It can be very painful when the skin pulls on an abdominal wound.



When a river becomes an ocean…

When a river becomes an ocean…

Waterfall (Photo by Avery Nielsen-Webb on Pexels.com)

From waterfalls

through rapids,

water in rivers

meanders through

lands and forests

Meandering river (Photo by Pixabay on Pexels.com)

to enter

the wide, bottomless oceans.

Entering the ocean (Photo by Lukas on Pexels.com)

When water evaporates,

rains down,

seeps into the ground,

from the high lands,

it journeys down again

to lowlands… to the oceans.

Evolving life journey (Photo by Elina Fairytale on Pexels.com)

Just as humans

evolve through life journeys.



God is fair: He gives some, He takes some

God is fair: He gives some, He takes some.

hands people woman girl
God is fair: He gives some, He takes some. (Photo by Public Domain Pictures on Pexels.com)

That was Mary’s answer as to why she runs an orphanage. It was a second Christian home that Anna had stepped into.

“I looked after His lost lambs here. Some lost their parents. And some are here during the day only. Their single parents need to work.”

When I am not around one day, I know that God will have someone to help my older son. He has to look after his younger and mentally- challenged brother,” Mary explained. “I have one bright and successful son and a differently-abled son.

“So you see? God is fair,” (nodding her head absent-mindedly into the air), “He gives some, and he takes some!”


On the contrary;

“Life is not fair; get used to it.” –Bill Gates

“Who says life is fair, where is that written?”
― William GoldmanThe Princess Bride


Tuhan itu adil: Dia memberi sebahagian dan Dia mengambil sebahagian.

Itu adalah jawapan Mary, mengapa dia menguruskan rumah anak yatim. Itu adalah rumah kristiani kedua yang Anna masuki. “Saya menjaga anak-anak -Nya di sini. Ada yang kehilangan ibu bapa mereka. Dan ada berada di sini hanya pada waktu siang kerana ibu bapa tunggal mereka perlu bekerja. Apabila saya tidak berada pada suatu hari, Saya tahu bahawa Tuhan akan mengaturkan seseorang untuk menolong anak saya yang lebih tua menjaga adiknya yang terencak akal, ”jelas Mary. “Saya mempunyai seorang anak lelaki yang cemerlang dan berjaya, dan anak lelaki yang berbeza keupayaannya. Jadi anda lihat? Tuhan itu adil, (menganggukkan kepalanya). Dia memberikan beberapa, dan dia mengambil beberapa! “


“Hidup ini tidak adil; membiasakan diri.” – Bill Gates

“Siapa bilang hidup itu adil, di mana itu ditulis?” – William Goldman, Pengantin Puteri



这就是玛丽为什么要经营孤儿院的答案。 这是安娜进入的第二个基督教家庭。 “我在这里照顾他失落的羔羊。 一些人失去了父母。 有些只在白天 因为他们的单亲父母需要工作。  我知道上帝会有一个人  帮助我的大儿子照顾  他的弟弟和精神上受到挑战的兄弟。”玛丽解释道。    “我有一个聪明而成功的儿子,和一个异类的儿子。 所以你看?上帝是公平的, (不专心地向空中点头)。 他给了一些,他给了一些!”


“生活不公平;要适应它。” -比尔盖茨

―威廉·高德曼(William Goldman),《公主新娘》


Denture Hazards and Estate Quack Dentists

Denture Hazards and Estate Quack Dentists ( a poem)

Estate quack dentists and loose denture – drawn by author

In road accidents

sweep mouth for foreign bodies

loose dentures’ hazards

Many years ago, it was night duty. One could hear this high-pitched noise before entering the ward. Sounded like stridor.

This estate worker had a motor vehicle accident. An emergency burr hole operation was done for her head injury. The next three days after removing the endotracheal tube, her breathing was so loud, piercing the usually quiet environment in that ward. Her daily chest X-rays and blood gases were normal. She was fed through a nasogastric tube.

As stridor could denote a blockage near the voice box. Nurse Anna went through all the skull x-rays. There was a very thin white line at the throat level in a few old skull X-rays (see skull picture above) that were done before the operation.

The doctor came in the middle of the night and removed a loosened ill-fitting denture!

I don’t know if there are still such estate quack dentists around. But in an accident, that is one of the reasons why one needs to sweep the victim’s mouth for foreign bodies before inserting an airway device!


A head full of rollers or a good night sleep?

A head full of rollers or a good night sleep?(A poem- Haiku)

I would go for a roller over my forehead, but not my whole head! I need my sleep more!


Roller, roller roll

One on forehead, not whole head!

I need my sleep more!


Wispy bangs in front

Flirting my brows and my frown

That’s me, presenting!



Mesmerizing Saturday- it’s hard to imagine a blue sunset!

Mesmerizing Saturday- it’s hard to imagine a blue sunset!

Toh HL explains why sunsets and sunrises are red and not blue!

So round, spectacular, and mesmerizing
sometimes, shy, bashful behind the clouds
often ordinary, the reddish blaze disappearing 
as if in a hurry for another appointment?

Rayleigh scattering is the phenomenon
for during sunsets or sunrises, 
sunlight has to penetrate a thicker layer
of dust and water vapour in the atmosphere.

The red end of the colour spectrum
is scattered less compared to the blue end
Hence, red reaches our eyes easily 
as  it has a shorter wavelength than blue

It's hard to imagine a blue sunset! 

by Toh HL, co-author and photographer, 21 May 2021


There are Things You’ll Never Forget — Don’t Lose Hope

“The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again, but you will never be the same.” Elisabeth Kubler-Ross You don’t ever forget that your partner was unfaithful. You don’t ever forget that you lost a precious child. […]

There are Things You’ll Never Forget — Don’t Lose Hope

Ostomy surgery: when gossips magnify problems…

Ostomy surgery: when gossips magnify problems…

Patient’s gossips about stoma…

This was in 1987. I remember it was an open ward. The male patients would gather to talk to each other. As doctors were trying to convince a patient to undergo an ostomy surgery, there might be ‘gossiping neighbors’ who would counteract the effort!

“Last week I met a patient who had cancer of the rectum. After operation, they put a bag on the tummy here. But it leaked and spilled all over! And the ‘stoma’ was so red, so big!”

We didn’t have trained specialized nurses in this field nor proper quality bags at that time. A few patients managed to get quality stoma bags and appliances imported from UK and US.

Today Malaysia has many trained enterostomaltherapists (ETs) and good quality ostomy bags in hospitals and pharmacies. The ETs would assist the colorectal surgeons to further explain about the conditions, surgery and the before and after operation care. They guide the patients on care for their stoma, its surrounding skin and how to use the stoma bags, etc.

I am not sure if patients still gossip like they used to! With proper pre and post operation care, these patients will be able to live a better quality life with a stoma.



Are you listening?

Are you listening?

Are you listening to one's endless nagging? 
Is it because one can't seem to get through to you?

Will the list of complaints gets longer 
if one cannot find their solutions soon?

Are there hidden messages 
that were missed in seemingly 'empty' talks?

Are you listening, listening...
before the sinking, sinking... hand disappears under?

Some people may have the knowledge, 
but it takes great patience, efforts, energy and compassion to listen.

It requires knowing 
when to step out of the shoe after stepping into it.
And listening in silence is a skill, 
interrupting hinders those much awaited expressions and words 
that were just coming through...

That is why we have two ears but only one mouth!

A carer for cancer patients once said, 'one must be kind to oneself in order to be kind to others.' 

This is because listening 
drains one emotionally if one does not recharge oneself in between.

So are you listening?


“Sometimes all a person wants is an empathetic ear; all he or she needs is to talk it out. Just offering a listening ear and an understanding heart for his or her suffering can be a big comfort.”Roy T. Bennett


Breast cancer- a brave admission in art form

Breast cancer- a brave admission in art form (poem- a tercet)


I saw this picture in the pexel collection,
I admire her bravery in admission
against femininely- accepted definition.

The pose seems to be for art-form
many would think it was not so warm
to be received as a new norm.

Mastectomees-by-choice will not frown
at the new level, she has taken taboo to,
for they will approve, too, privately with their open gowns.

happy asian woman with scars after breast removal
Breast cancer- a brave admission (Photo by Michelle Leman on Pexels.com)


I made a decision to have a preventive double mastectomy. I started with the breasts, as my risk of breast cancer is higher than my risk of ovarian cancer, and the surgery is more complex.- Angelina Jolie


“She hasn’t seen life yet!”

“She hasn’t seen life yet!”

Broken brick (Photo by Allan Mas on Pexels.com)


Carmen was so miserable

about her new marriage life.

She would break down

and complained a lot

about her in- laws, her works,

and house works.


Her sister- in- law, Mary,

made a snide comment,

“So immature!

She hasn’t seen life yet!”


Having gone through

an early life dented and battered

by the ‘bricks’ of hard knocks,

had added years of maturity

to this young Mary!


Some older Chinese

would tell the young people,

“I have taken more salt

than you have, rice!”



Care beyond color, sex orientation, religion.

Care beyond color, sex orientation, religion.

This message came through my nurses’ group chat today. I am not a Christian, but I find this very true, indeed!

two person doing surgery inside room
Photo by Vidal Balielo Jr. on Pexels.com

Here’s the English translation 
”Definition of “hospital” … by the Pope.


“Hospital walls have heard more honest prayers than churches …

They’ve seen far more sincere kisses and kisses than at airports …

It is at the hospital that you see a homophobic being saved by a gay doctor.

The “patricinha” doctor saving the life of a beggar …

In the ICU you see a Jew taking care of a racist …

A police patient and a prisoner in the same ward receiving the same care …

A rich patient in the liver transplant queue ready to receive the organ from a poor donor …

It is at these times when the hospital touches the wounds of people that universes intersect on purpose
divine and in this communion of destinies we realize that alone we are nobody!

The absolute truth of people, most of the time, only appears at the moment of pain or the real threat of definitive loss “

Hospital, a place where human beings strip off their masks and show themselves as they are in their true essences.



Envy is the root of all evil and it give birth to jealousy! It burns you from inside out. Do not get envy of others success. Be just as enthusiastic about the success of others As you are about get your own success. Jealousy is simply and clearly the fear that you do not have […]


A pug on my mug

Pug (Photo by Fabru00edcio Lira on Pexels.com)

A pug on my mug

Is this pup a pug?
as I looked at the picture
printed on my mug.

This is inspired by a story of a wrinkly pug ” The Pug.” while I was drinking my mug of cofee.



A snake joined in a meditation session

A snake joined in a meditation session

photo of monumental sculpture
Snake as a spiritual being (Photo by Spoortesh Honey on Pexels.com)


In the silent hall
a snake coiled in the center
in meditation!

Horrified one saw
‘Don’t move, don’t move, least it ’
all still, not breathing!

Basket over it
a wooden plank under it
outside hall, released!


“Snakes are sometimes perceived as evil, but they are also perceived as medicine. If you look at an ambulance, there’s the two snakes on the side of the ambulance. The caduceus, or the staff of Hermes, there’s the two snakes going up it, which means that the venom can also be healing.” – Nicolas Cage

“Just as a snake sheds its skin, we must shed our past over and over again.” – Gautama Buddha 



Artists in search of a canvas

Artists in search of a canvas

mural painting …

artists in search of

a canvas to show their skills

repaint over paint

Patriotic passed- by with their children leave their palm prints on trees…

This mural project

displays artistic skills

for a good cause…

a show of multi- ethnicity.

Adults with children, too,

leave their palm prints

as leaves on trees!



  1. “I dream my painting and I paint my dream.” ― Vincent Willem van Gogh
  2. Painting is silent poetry, and poetry is [a] painting that speaks. – Plutarch



It’s raining cats and dogs!

It’s raining cats and dogs!

person riding a bicycle during rainy day
Heavy rain (Photo by Genaro Servín on Pexels.com)

“Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass. It’s about learning to dance in the rain.”Vivian Greene

I wonder if this depicts the current Covid-19 pandemic. Is it about learning how to live with it?


It is raining cats and dogs out there!
Remember to take your umbrella!
But then comes the wind
and inverts the brolly!
When the floods come,
washing bodies of cats and dogs.
Is that what the idiom means?



How children evolve like a butterfly!

How children evolve like a butterfly!


Was Albert Einstein

Were there signs

to show that he would become

a great person one day?

Butterflies-to-be (Photo by Pixabay on Pexels.com)


There is nothing

in a caterpillar

that tells you

it’s going to be a

butterfly (one day!).

-R. Buckminster Fuller

Butterfly (Photo by Artem Beliaikin on Pexels.com)



Such clear reflection in the stillness of water!

Such clear reflection in the stillness of water!

Clear reflection. (Photo by eberhard grossgasteiger on Pexels.com)

in the utter stillness

of water,

almost like a mirror,

the reflection is so clear,

it mimics nature’s beauty!


in the quietude

of one’s mind,

one sees clearly

as ones reflects!



Suicides among school-children and the need to review school system

Suicides among school-children and the need to review school system

basketball player throwing ball into basketball hoop
Photo by Chrofit the man to call on Pexels.com
I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed. Michael Jordan, Basketball Player


As quoted above, failures should be taught to be are part of a journey to success.

It is worrying to see young school children committing suicide because of their inability to cope with homeworks and examination stress.

School should be fun!


Decriminalize attempt suicide: Will it finally happen?

Decriminalize attempt suicide: Will it finally happen?

Hammer (Photo by Pixabay on Pexels.com)

Cabinet has finally agreed to decriminalise suicide.

Is it finally going to happen?




Photo by Mike on Pexels.com

“你对自己的病感觉如何?” 大多数癌症患者会将癌症与死亡的可能性联系起来。但是,无论是患有癌症,其他疾病(Covid-19,心脏病发作,中风等)还是意外伤害,生命都是一段旅程。据艾伦先生说,生活是一段短暂的旅程。二十年前,当我还是一名年轻护士时,我在一家公立医院遇到了艾伦先生。我问的一个问题是:“您对自己的病情如何?”。在听他讲话时,他试图找到一种简单的方式向我解释。这是当时我得到的最平静,最平静的答案之一。 -陈慧琳



2 Corinthians 4:18

[虽然我们不看那些看不见的东西,但要看那些看不见的东西。因为看见的是暂时的,看不见的是永恒的。Google translated] while we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen; for the things which are seen are temporal, but the things which are not seen are eternal.

This Life is But a journey

[“在这个世界上,就好像你是一个陌生人还是一个旅行者。” (先知穆罕默德)Google translated] “Be in this world as if you were a stranger or a traveller.” (The Prophet Muhammad)

Dalai Lama says:-

[“我们是这个星球上的游客。我们在这里最多一百年了。在此期间,我们必须努力使自己的生活变得美好和有益。如果您为他人的幸福做出贡献,就会发现生活的真正意义。” – 达赖喇嘛 google translated]” We are visitors on this planet. We are here for one hundred years at the very most. During that period we must try to do something good, something useful, with our lives. if you contribute to other people’s happiness, you will find the true meaning of life.” – Dalai Lama


Breast cancer incidences now the most common…

Breast cancer incidences now the most common…

Cancer (Photo by Ivan Samkov on Pexels.com)

According to WHO, in 2020, cancer is a leading cause of death.


The most common NEW cases were breast cancer (2.26 millions)! It has overtaken lung cancer’s place!

New cases of lung cancer is in the second place (2.21 million cases), followed by colon and rectum (1.93 million cases); prostate; skin (non-melanoma); and stomach (1.09 million cases).

Cervical cancer is not in this top list. It used to be higher than breast cancer decades ago. Have systematic screenings and HPV vaccination played a big role?


The most common causes of cancer DEATH in 2020 were: lung (1.80 million deaths); colon and rectum; liver ; stomach; and then breast (685 000 deaths).


Breast cancer incidences is now the most common… displacing lung cancer.

Have increased awareness and early screenings increase the number?

Have these strategies conversely lower the number of breast cancer deaths, as compared to the other cancers?



Don’t Be Less Than Yourself — Chateau Cherie

Don’t Be Less Than Yourself — Chateau Cherie

Breast Cancer and Wearing of Bras: A Simple Equation


Mental disorders: Applying the safety net

Mental disorders: Applying the safety net

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Li Na passed by a house in a rural village.
An unkempt, half-naked man was squatting
over a drain outside a half-burned house.

The driver said, “he is a mentally-ill person.
He was probably trying to cook some food.”
A lady sitting next to Anna chuckled,
“… and burning down his own house, crazy fella.”

Li Na was disappointed with the elderly lady.
“But, but, this house is so near the hospital!
He needs treatment!” Li Na exclaimed.
“The police would not come and take him to the hospital because no one reported it,” the driver explained.

… Society has failed him.
… Our mental health safety net has failed,
…His family members have failed him and not gotten him treated.
Li Na felt guilty too for not picking up the phone,
as the team moved on.


The above anecdote is an example and illustration of some neglected persons.

Covid-19 causes stress and potential mental disorders risks in society and work places as well. Safety net policies need to be enforced for these people at risk



Decriminalizing attempted suicide

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Decriminalizing attempted suicide

Uncle Simon Wong was a loving grandfather.
When he was diagnosed with cancer of the colon,
His son and daughter admitted him to the hospital.
This diagnosis was a double blow during a time
when his business just suffered the recession then.

He took his own life before surgery.
A suicide like this happens at a time when
the mind is at its utmost fragility and vulnerability.

Recent reports that attempted suicides were dealt
with being handcuffed, fines and imprisonment.

While the police force deals with criminals
‘hammering the hard-core nails into its place’,
Such a hammer would only smash these delicate beings
to shreds, irretrievable.

Attempted suicide is a cry for help, not a crime!
The tool to use is not the ‘hammer’ of the police force,
but ‘gentle, compassionate hands
of the healthcare and social welfare experts!

– Chen Song Ping, 2021-


Some quotes on suicide prevention:-

  1. When you don’t have the strength to walk through the darkness. Reach for a hand.
  2. Your life is important to everyone around you.
  3. Even the strongest soldiers fall. Find the strength to get back up.



Cancer: Should one have a second opinion?

Cancer: Should one have a second opinion?

A second opinion (Photo by Gustavo Fring on Pexels.com)

Cancer missed!

“The GP doctor said that my bleeding per rectum is due to haemorrhoid or piles. So I was treated with piles medications for six months before I was diagnosed as having cancer rectum…” Piles are so common, this patient did not doubt the GP and did not seek a second opinion until much later.

It is ironic that lady A went around teaching others how to perform the breast self-exams. But her own breast lump was misdiagnosed as mastitis as she was breast feeding her child. During a second opinion the doctor diagnosed her with incurable breast cancer. She underwent a bilateral mastectomy surgery to remove both breasts. This was followed by chemotherapy and radiation therapy.


No cancer, but operated!

Another lady underwent a double mastectomy, chemotherapy and reconstructive surgery. Later it was found out to be an incorrectly reported biopsy result. And she did not have cancer!


That is why, I always stressed to nurses that they are not to break the news of cancer. It is the duty of the relevant doctor with his clinical findings and the biopsy result in hand.

Even with that, the best doctors can still make mistakes. Should one seek a second opinion?

Has Artificial Intelligence (AI) a place in complementing medical diagnosis?



The most popular pose today…

The most popular pose today…

Today on social media, the most popular pose with a poster is

“I have been vaccinated!”

person holding syringe
“I have been vaccinated ! (Photo by cottonbro on Pexels.com)

It’s like announcing to the world.

Hey, now I am safe!

Come join the herd community effort!

Get your appointment fast!

Well, it is not like you can walk into any clinic for a vaccination like our kids do with triple antigen and booster dose immunizations! 😐☹️🙄😟

We wait for our covid-19 vaccination appointments according to the government schedule! Then I saw a Facebook sitting-on-a-rock pose by a senior aunt!

I have NOT been vaccinated! 😞😟☹️

There must be some mistakes with the official scheduler as younger people have already gone for the jab!

I hope the process would buck up!💪💪💪

October 2021 updates:-

I am so glad most people have been vaccinated. The posing after vaccination craze is waning off nowadays.

I doubt the ‘booster dose’ pose will pick up with equal enthusiasm!



Kanser Dan ‘Bola Kristal’ Doktor

three person looking at x ray result
Cancer And The Doctor’s ‘Crystal Ball’ (Photo by EVG Culture on Pexels.com)
Kanser Dan ‘Bola Kristal’ Doktor 

Berapa tahun saya tinggal?
 Pada peringkat barah saya,
 dan mengikut kajian statistik,
 doktor mengatakan bahawa 
saya tinggal kira-kira dua tahun!
 Tuan ‘Kecewa’ menangis.
 Saya tidak boleh masuk wad.
 Setiap hari tanpa kerja,
 bermaksud tiada makanan untuk keluarga saya!
 Tuan ‘Ingin bunuh diri’ merenung.
 Kanser bermaksud kematian.
 Kanser bermaksud banyak kesakitan.
 Keluarga saya akan bimbang 
dengan lebih banyak bil hospital!
 Encik ‘Alim’ dengan tenangnya menerima.
 Ini bukan di tentukan doktor.
 Hanya TUHAN yang akan menentukan bila dia akan mengambil saya.
 Sementara itu, saya akan terus melakukan kebaikan.
 Tuan ‘Falsafah’ menyatakan.
 Rakan sekerja muda saya mati, di tempat kejadian, dalam kemalangan,
 dan dua lagi, dari serangan jantung dan denggi.
 Dengan barah, saya mempunyai masa untuk merancang 'masa depan saya'.
 Tuan ‘Pejuang’ mengejek.
 Itu dua belas tahun yang lalu!
 Lihatlah dua parut luka ini di perut saya.
 Saya mencabar setiap kali 'Big C' kembali!
 Sangat menarik untuk diperhatikan, 
bagaimana bezanya sesetengah orang
 mempunyai  kehendak hidup 
yang lebih besar berbanding orang lain.
  Yang penting adalah 
pemupukan harapan, sikap positif,
  tekad yang lebih kuat, 
kemahiran mengatasi yang lebih baik,
  dengan sokongan dan kasih sayang 
keluarga yang baik.
  Setiap doktor tidak boleh melihat
  ‘bahagian gajah’ miliknya
  tetapi perlu melihat klien 
secara keseluruhan.
  Adakah sokongan yang mencukupi 
daripada para jururawat, 
pasukan paliatif, kebajikan sosial,
 kaunselor dan pegawai agama?
"Penyembuhan banyak penyakit 
tidak diketahui oleh doktor
 kerana mereka tidak mengetahui keseluruhannya.
 Bagi bahagian itu tidak akan pernah sihat kecuali keseluruhannya baik. "
- Plato

When ‘papa’ toilet-trains a puppy!

When ‘papa’ toilet-trains a puppy!

One day, Tommy excitedly

brought back a little puppy.

He fed him using a milk bottle.

The other siblings were equally excited

squatting around

the puppy’s lined basket.

Puppies (Photo by sergio souza on Pexels.com)


We heard him running

to the back of the house.

And he sat there,

waiting, waiting…

This went on the next few weeks.

He was toilet training the puppy.


Papa was very annoyed.

“Very noisy, very noisy!

Yelping the whole night!”

Tommy had to close the store room

for the lessen the din.

Very active dog (Photo by Helena Lopes on Pexels.com)

As Max grew bigger.

He was very active.

He would go round and round

and between our legs

as soon as we entered

the gate from work.

” Move, move away,

you are such a nuisance”

Papa was so irritated!

Grown up dog (Photo by Adam Kontor on Pexels.com)

The following fifteen years

saw papa feeding Max

because Tommy often forgot!

Papa would religiously

wash down those poops

at the back of the house, too!


Both Max and incidentally papa

were very well trained indeed!


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