Free-Falling Heart Jolts

Bungee jumping kids can give many a parents heart jolts!

Free-Falling Heart Jolts

Rock climbing, scuba-diving, 
and now free-falling bungee jumps
as high as a nine-storey building!

These adrenaline-producing activities
may jolt many-a-parent's heart, many times!
All for the challenge of courage and excitements!

Have you felt such heart jolt before? I did!


Fascinating Saturday in the village

Fascinating Saturday in the village (a senyru)

woman in white t shirt holding brown and white bird
Urban kids saw fowls (Photo by cottonbro on Pexels.com)

Urban kids saw fowls
Fascinating excitement!
‘Mum, chicken, chicken’!

They ran after them
sending furious wings flappings
in all directions

For kids who grow up in the cities and high-rise buildings, this is a sight to behold! Not at the birds, but the excited kids!


Communication between a duck and a chicken

Communication between a duck and a chicken

In a multilingual society, communication can be a challenge in our hospitals. Our main languages are English, Malay, Chinese, and Tamil. I learned a few simple Tamil words too.
Below was my experience communicating with an Indian estate worker who was admitted for a head injury. These were part of the neurological assessment on him.

“Open your mouth.” No response. “Buka mulut (in Malay).” No response. “Via to reh” he opened his mouth! He understood and obeyed the command! “
“Alright close your mouth.”But his mouth was still opened. “Tutup mulut (in Malay).” But his mouth was still open. I didn’t know how to say ‘close your mouth’ in Tamil. I had to physically close his mouth shut!

“Now hold my hands tightly.” No response.
“Pegang tangan kuat kuat (in Malay).” No response.
“Kai pu di” and he held my hands tightly! Proud to show that his hands were strong! There was obviously no weakness in his upper limbs.
“Okay, okay, let go, let go!” How to say ‘let go’ in Tamil? Ouch, ouch, I winced in pain. He saw it. So he let go of my hands!

Some of the young hospital staff I met were able to say some simple words in other languages like ‘what is your name?’ ‘any pain?’ ‘Have you eaten?’ Etc.
Most hospitals nowadays have interpreters as we have more international patients like Japanese, Korean, Arabs, etc.


woman in pink long sleeved shirt and green floral skirt
Communication between a duck and a chicken (Photo by Nicholas Githiri on Pexels.com)


“The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn’t said.” – Peter Drucker.


Is a house, a home?

Is a house, a home? ( Haiku)

house lights turned on
It’s a house, a home? (Photo by Binyamin Mellish on Pexels.com)

What this house don’t have

that you must run away from?

It’s for want of love!


Yes, the house is big

but the family’s broken!

Where’s substitute’s love?



Home is the starting place of love, hope and dreams.”

Home is where Mom is. (I lost my mum at a young age. So I always go ‘home’ where my eldest sister is!)



From womb to tomb

From womb to tomb

Birth (Photo by Rene Asmussen on Pexels.com)

“Nurses are there when the last breath is taken, and nurses are there when the first breath is taken.” – Christine Bell

Tomb (Photo by Tom Fisk on Pexels.com)



Sleeping toes touching toes

Sleeping toes touching toes

woods covered with snow
Photo by Mikhail Nilov on Pexels.com

It’s wintery cold

lying face-to-face they sleep

bolster in-between


their toes touching toes

to know the other is warm,

alive and kicking.


An old aunt describes above how old people sleep and check each other under the blanket during cold winters.


Increased winter mortality is reported as an important public health matter in China.

In U.S. death rates in winter months have been 8 to 12 percent higher.



Oh, my kids’ English! – Bananas

Oh, my kids’ English! – Bananas

I grew up in a family where all my siblings were Chinese-educated. But my children grew up speaking English, Malay and Chinese dialect (Hokkien). I started reading the “Peter and Jane” series to them at the age of two. Oh, my kids’ English is about some of the amusing words they used as kids!

bunch of fresh yellow banana fruits
Bananas (Photo by Daniel Dan on Pexels.com)


“Mum, mum! Are these bananas cooked?” as they ran in after the evening outdoor games with their neighbours.

Yes, dear. The bananas are ripe!”

Dinner will be ready soon. The rice is cooked!”


Learning English is like duck takes to water for them. They usually scored distinction, even my youngest and special child!



Can you find my temper?

Can you find my temper? (A Senryū)

beauty blur cold cute
It’s brewing…(Photo by Pixabay on Pexels.com)

Step on her again?

Watch out, her temper’s brewing!

don’t let her lose it!


Note this aunt’s advice

“When she is angry with you

Don’t fan the fire!”

… least it explode!


‘Don’t fan the fire’ means don’t argue, go hide in your room, or go out for a walk. Talk when things cool down!


“When I lose my temper, honey, you can’t find it any place.”
― Ava Gardner

“When angry, count ten before you speak; if very angry, an hundred.”
― Thomas Jefferson

“When anger rises, think of the consequences.” — Confucius


Oh, my kids’ English! – I borrow him my toy…

Oh, my kids’ English! – I borrow him my toy…

I grew up in a family where all my siblings were Chinese-educated. But my children grew up speaking English, Malay and Chinese dialect (Hokkien). I started reading the “Peter and Jane” series to them at the age of two. Oh, my kids’ English is about some of the amusing words they used as kids!

boy in red long sleeves holding toy car
Toy (Photo by cottonbro on Pexels.com)


Both boys were screaming and having a tug-of-war over a toy car!

I borrow him my toy car. Now he doesn’t want to give back!

“If you lend your toy to your younger brother, I am sure you would want him to return it to you, right?”

I have heard this ‘borrowing and lending mixed-ups’ even with adults at work place!


Learning English is like duck takes to water for them. They usually scored distinction, even my youngest and special child!



Finding that equilibrium in family and society

Finding that equilibrium in family and society

water finding equilibrium

Water flow disrupted

finding its alternatives

equalizing equilibrium

to level the playing ground

typography luck technology blur

when ‘Yang’ forces are too strong

the ‘Yin’ comes to rescue

in family, work-life, or societies

aligning that ‘Yin-Yang’ harmony!

no matter how hopelessly life seem

in love, family, or work, remember

the universe is listening- an equipoise

like the sun sets, the sun will still rise tomorrow.

group of people sitting indoors

one man’s loss is another man’s gain

respecting work-force; one’s employees

that’s how profound human beings are

in finding that balance; that equilibrium.

Photo by Sora Shimazaki on Pexels.com
judgement scale and gavel in judge office

in mandating more equity with inequity

assigning financial, economy, and market shares

altering political systems affecting families and society

the effectiveness outcome, too, depicts a need for stability; an equilibrium.



  1. A system is in equilibrium when the forces constituting it are arranged in such a way as to compensate each other, like the two weights pulling at the arms of a pair of scales.  – Rudolf Arnheim
  2. Equilibrium is the profoundest tendency of all human activity. – Jean Piage



Decriminalizing attempted suicide

a hammer to smash an egg (Photo by Pixabay on Pexels.com)

Decriminalizing attempted suicide

Uncle Simon Wong was a loving grandfather.
When he was diagnosed with cancer of the colon,
His son and daughter admitted him to the hospital.
This diagnosis was a double blow during a time
when his business just suffered the recession then.

He took his own life before surgery.
A suicide like this happens at a time when
the mind is at its utmost fragility and vulnerability.

Recent reports that attempted suicides were dealt
with being handcuffed, fines and imprisonment.

While the police force deals with criminals
‘hammering the hard-core nails into its place’,
Such a hammer would only smash these delicate beings
to shreds, irretrievable.

Attempted suicide is a cry for help, not a crime!
The tool to use is not the ‘hammer’ of the police force,
but ‘gentle, compassionate hands
of the healthcare and social welfare experts!

– Chen Song Ping, 2021-


Some quotes on suicide prevention:-

  1. When you don’t have the strength to walk through the darkness. Reach for a hand.
  2. Your life is important to everyone around you.
  3. Even the strongest soldiers fall. Find the strength to get back up.



Oh, my kids’ English! – my nose is running!

Oh, my kids’ English! – my nose is running!

I grew up in a family where all my siblings were Chinese-educated. But my children grew up speaking English, Malay and Chinese dialect (Hokkien). I started reading the “Peter and Jane” series to them at the age of two. Oh, my kids’ English is about some of the amusing words they used as kids!

woman lying on bed while blowing her nose
Running nose (Photo by Andrea Piacquadio on Pexels.com)


I came back from work. As I entered the house, my second son greeted me.

“Mum, mum! My nose is running!” he ran on the spot to demonstrate his point! Then he removed the tissue papers, flashing a cute grin and displaying the missing two front teeth!


Learning English is like duck takes to water for them. They usually scored distinction, even my youngest and special child!



English: when everybody is a ‘he’!

English: when everybody is a ‘he’!

When a child addresses everybody as a ‘he’, I wonder if there is a problem with high-frequency hearing loss. The tiny hair-like sensory hearing cells in your cochlea (inner ear) are damaged. There is a problem differentiating certain higher pitch consonants like sh or f).

pensive ethnic man listening to answer in paper cup phone
hearing (Photo by Andrea Piacquadio on Pexels.com)

I heard
but I haven’t heard.
Was it a ‘she’ or a ‘he’?

The ‘cat’ is beautiful,
or the ‘hat’ is beautiful?
And can one comb the [h]air?

The teacher’s explanation was simple.
Yet, she couldn’t understand.
Is she ‘stupid’ or ‘slow‘?

I love music
But I can’t get the lyrics.
It’s ‘distorted’ music!


Hearing screening for babies and school children would have helped eliminate these falsely ‘lost and stupid’ kids in the world of sound.



A pleasant breakfast surprise in Hanoi!

A pleasant breakfast surprise in Hanoi!

A pleasant breakfast surprise in Hanoi

A breakfast surprise;
pleasant personal greeting!
Such a warm welcome!

This is a simple oriental breakfast in Hanoi. The idea didn’t cost much, but it conveyed such a warm personal greeting and welcome to start the day!



Meditation is not what you think

Meditation is not what you think

… Watch the sunset on a beach. Watch the waves hit the shore. Absorb in their sounds and fury. These are a form of meditation, according to Breathwork India.

photo of a man sitting under the tree
Meditation is not what you think (Photo by Samuel Silitonga on Pexels.com)

When I went for a meditation retreat, I sat on a chair most of the times. I had problems with my knees then. The guru told me I can meditate even when sleeping!

I can understand why I felt so peaceful for hours doing my pottery works! It was my solace, especially when I was feeling down.




“To let go does not mean to get rid of. To let go means to let be. When we let be with compassion, things come and things go on their own”  Jack Kornfield


Honey, where is my favorite shirt?

Honey, where is my favorite shirt?

shallow focus photography of clothes
Honey, where is my favorite shirt? (Photo by Artem Beliaikin on Pexels.com)

Honey, have you seen my favorite T- shirt? The one with the scale logo?

Here it is!

But some older ones had been sent to the orphanage or old folks home!


Wow, you build new overhead cupboards on the wall?

Yea, your aunt needs more places to store some more clothes! Some are more than ten years old!



Your home is living space, not storage space.- Francine Jay



Will hope come a-hopping into 2022?

Will hope come a-hopping into 2022?

Hope (Photo by Aaron Burden on Pexels.com)


Look up towards the sky

for rays of sunlight

for rays of hope


Go away, COVID-19

Go away rains and flood

will hope come a- hopping in

to give a new clean start

this 2022?





joyful adult daughter greeting happy surprised senior mother in garden
Mother sand daughter (Photo by Andrea Piacquadio on Pexels.com)

“My dear girl, the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through.

If when we talk, I repeat the same thing a thousand times, don’t interrupt to say: “You said the same thing a minute ago”… Just listen, please. Try to remember the times when you were little and I would read the same story night after night until you would fall asleep.

When I don’t want to take a bath, don’t be mad and don’t embarrass me. Remember when I had to run after you making excuses and trying to get you to take a shower when you were just a girl?

When you see how ignorant I am when it comes to new technology, give me the time to learn and don’t look at me that way… remember, honey, I patiently taught you how to do many things like eating appropriately, getting dressed, combing your hair and dealing with life’s issues every day…

… the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through.

If I occasionally lose track of what we’re talking about, give me the time to remember, and if I can’t, don’t be nervous, impatient or arrogant. Just know in your heart that the most important thing for me is to be with you.

And when my old, tired legs don’t let me move as quickly as before, give me your hand the same way that I offered mine to you when you first walked.

When those days come, don’t feel sad… just be with me, and understand me while I get to the end of my life with love. I’ll cherish and thank you for the gift of time and joy we shared.

With a big smile and the huge love I’ve always had for you, I just want to say, I love you… my darling daughter.”- Unknown


Did you remember to smile today?

Did you remember to smile today?

When I first saw you,

you were always walking

with your nose up the ceiling!

Gosh! I didn’t realize that!

photo of woman looking at the mirror
Smile (Photo by Andrea Piacquadio on Pexels.com)

I read KK ‘s post on Smile Your Way. I thought I should stretch the S…mile farther!


¨Remember to smile.¨- Nelson Mandela

¨Smile in the mirror. Do that every morning and you’ll start to see a big difference in your life.¨- Yoko Ono


Karuna and metta

Karuna and metta

pink water lily flower on water
Karuna and metta (Photo by Diego Madrigal on Pexels.com)

I used to be very active doing voluntary works. I don’t seek them. Somehow, one gets drawn to these activities. “Can you help us with this cancer awareness project?” “Would you like to sit in our committee?”

When my son became unwell during his adolescence period, I slowed down these works. Because charity begins at home.

There was a time when I used to ask this question: “Why me”?, “Why my son?” I meditate. I read a lot trying to understand life purposes. It had been a long journey.

“I don’t understand how you can be so patient with him!”

One will, when one happens to reach this bridge…



Compassion is a feeling of concern for others who are suffering and therefore makes a person want to do something to help. In Buddhism, compassion is called karuna.

Another one of the Four Sublime States is metta, or loving kindness. It is important as Buddhists want to develop this quality in order to help others to be free from suffering.



Let me be the one in charge!

Let me be the one in charge!

There are always complaints about those running the country. One can feel the anger and disgust in them!

female lawyers in an office looking at a computer
leaders deciding what to do (Photo by August de Richelieu on Pexels.com)

Read this comment:-

.. where they forced schools to reopen–even the reluctant ones–and no more than a day later closed them. Human I can live with. Incompetent, though? They have no right to be running a country.’

Many politicians are in this pandemic for the first time too! Their decisions are usually based on experts’ advice, lol aren’t they?


A politician needs the ability to foretell what is going to happen tomorrow, next week, next month, and next year. And to have the ability afterwards to explain why it didn’t happen.
Winston Churchill.



You don’t peel your potatoes twice

You don’t peel your potatoes twice

I like this African idiom. It means “Get it right the first time”.

photo of peeling of potatoes
Peeling potatoes (Photo by Polina Tankilevitch on Pexels.com)

Organizational and country leaders make decisions all the time. They should be well-advised by professional experts.

For example, a single Sri Petaling religious mass gathering was held from 27 February 2020 to 1 March 2020.  Some international delegates went back to their home countries with Covid-19, as well.

A state election ( September 2020) was staged in Sabah. It resulted in a spike in the number of COVID-19 cases which crescendoed throughout the country. This caused many deaths, followed by many lockdowns, and economic shutdowns. Increased joblessness, mental anguish and suicides are worrying, too.

They are indeed, expensive lessons to learn.

It is not easy to be country leaders. Their decisions hold huge responsibilities which have great implications on people’s livelihoods and lives.

Their decisions need to be a ‘get it right the first time’ quality!

Because… potatoes are not meant to be peeled twice!



Remember to turn on the light!

Remember to turn on the light! (Senyru)

turned on pendant lamp
Turn on a light (Photo by Burak Kebapci on Pexels.com)


When darkness consumes,

remember, turn on a light!

it’ s a switch away



“Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.” — Albus Dumbledore


Yes, sir! Thank you, sir!

Yes, sir! Thank you, sir!

army authority drill instructor group
Yes, sir! Thank you, sir! [Note: This is an exaggerated pose] (Photo by Pixabay on Pexels.com)

I like reading comments between bloggers. Here is an interesting one!


Conversation 1

• “… You mean ‘ decent’ and not ‘dissent’!” – sounds like a ‘Stern teacher’ 

• “A nicely articulated piece. Thanks” – Hmm, the crispy short and no-nonsense response of this stern teacher!

•”Yes, sir! Thank you, sir! I have…” ( The replier sensed it! He is replying with caution and respect addressing him as ‘sir’ !)

[Please note: This picture above is an exaggerated pose! ]


Oesophageal cancer: “… wanting a taste of food.”

Oesophageal cancer: “… wanting a taste of food.”

man in white polo shirt wearing black sunglasses on his head
Tasting food (Photo by RODNAE Productions on Pexels.com)


I read “The Taste Of Chocolate (Flash Fiction #35)” by Haoyando. It reminds me of a person with oesophageal cancer who suffer dysphagia and cannot swallow food.

A feeding tube is inserted through the nose straight to the stomach. Liquid food is fed several times a day.

Sometimes, the carer would feed him small spoonfuls of porridge with fish or minced meat. Slowly he would chew and roll the food inside his mouth with his tongue. Then he would spit this into a bowl.

The carer would strain this mushy and chewed food through a siever. This is mixed with the remaining liquid and fed through the naso- gastric tube.

This way he gets to masticate the meat with his teeth, stimulate the taste buds on his tongue, and mix the food with his oral salivary enzymes.

We must grateful for the ability to savour the little moments of joys satiating food!



Food is not just eating energy. It’s an experience. – Emoovio



Ms Perfect and the ‘Rescuer’

Ms Perfect and the ‘Rescuer’

woman writing on a notebook
Ms Perfect and the Rescuer (Photo by Ivan Samkov on Pexels.com)

I like reading comments between bloggers. Here’s a Ms Perfect and a ‘Rescuer’! I feel blessed having them around!

Conversation 2

Ms Perfect: … the words seem a little bunched together. Makes it hard to read. Formatting error?

Amy : Good point. Will do the correction. TQ?

Ms Perfect: TQ?

Amy: Sorry, it’s typo!  (That’s the problem when I swype instead of type!)

‘Rescuer’: Short form for “thank you” – TQ is used when texting on phones. Hope this help.

Ms Perfect : TQ  I got that. It was the question mark after it that had me wondering.

Amy: Anyway, thanks to both of you!


Bedridden: where danger lurks beneath the blanket!

Bedridden: where danger lurks beneath the blanket! ( Haiku)

man in blue shirt holding woman in blue dress
Bedridden (Photo by RODNAE Productions on Pexels.com)

Clots in brain removed,

blood in condom drainage seen.

Head bandage intact.


Two nurses sponged him.

Doctors checked his head dressings.

He’s neatly tucked in.


But right leg swollen!

Three times the size of left leg!

Who noticed his legs?


There are many complications of immobility. The case above was noticed ten day after brain surgery. It is called deep vein thrombosis ( DVT).

DVT can also happen when sitting for a long time, such as, driving or flying.



Old? Who is old?

Old? Who is old?

happy elderly couple in love with fresh flowers in forest
Old? (Photo by Gustavo Fring on Pexels.com)


Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter. Mark Twain



Parkinson’s disease: Three steps forwards and two steps back

Parkinson’s disease: Three steps forwards and two steps back

Old man walking (Photo by Safa Baku0131rcu0131 on Pexels.com)

When I was a student, I met a male nurse walking a patient with Parkinson’s disease to the toilet.

“He is taking ages at the rate he is walking! It’s like taking three steps forward and two steps backward! I told him it would be faster for him to use a urinal on his bed!” Mr. Lee kept quiet at that remark. His mask-like face showed no expression. With a flexed body, he shuffled in a frustratingly slow, yet festinating gait. His thumb and forefinger rubbed in a pin-rolling tremor.

He never wet because he would request to go to the toilet earlier to avoid losing control of his bladder.

A senior walking pass, “Mr. Lee, I see you are walking and exercising. Very good, keep it up!”

Later the senior called a few of us aside, “be careful what you say! For a headmaster, to lose control over his movements can be a depressing condition. He may keep quiet, but he is sharp. He understood what you said! We need to treat patients with dignity and respect!”


Not long ago, I met a male retired banker in a pottery class with me.

“I have Parkinson’s disease. That’s why I am here!” He was trying to slow down the progression of motor disability. And he was very creative and tidy in his pottery work!


Research and management of people with Parkinson’s disease have improved a lot since.


woman making clay pot
pottery work (Photo by Quang Nguyen Vinh on Pexels.com)


The temple in you…

The temple in you… ( haiku)

woman standing in front of building
Temple (Photo by Tiff Ng on Pexels.com)

It’s up on a hill,

grandly, majestically,

rows of lanterns lit.


Tien Ho is it’s name;

Imperial Empress Goddess,

popular tour site!


Do you come often?

Me? Only festive seasons;

religiously poor!


Oh, it’s ok dear!

you are spiritually rich!

the temple’s in you!


I brought an overseas friend to see the Tein Ho ( Imperial Empress Goddess) temple in Kuala Lumpur. It was sight to behold; beautifully lit-up, like a jewel in the night atop a hill.



This is my simple religion. No need for temples. No need for complicated philosophy. Your own mind, your own heart is the temple. Your philosophy is simple kindness. – Dalai Lama XIV


The Dutch well- a remnant left behind

The Dutch well- a remnant left behind – at Tangjung Tuan

by Toh HL , co-author and photographer, 27 May 2021

The Dutch well in Tangjung Tuan
In Tangjung Tuan, there is this boulder. 
On top of it, is a dent that appears like the shape of a footprint. 
The local mythology claims this to be the footprint 
of Hang Tuah, an ancient Malacca warrior, 
during the reign of Sultan Mansur Shah. 
It is said he visited Tanjung Tuan, but exaggeration claims
he jumped from Malacca to Tanjung Tuan.

There are two wells; the Rubiah well and the Dutch well.
It seems this well was dug by the Dutch. 
One wonders if these wells were dug for use by the lighthouse keepers. 
Were foreigners or locals manning the lighthouse then?


Be kind or be quiet!

Be kind or be quiet!

woman placing her finger between her lips
Be quiet! (Photo by Kat Jayne on Pexels.com)

The harder a ball is thrown, the stronger it will bounce back!

When a customer is angry, there must be something that makes him so. It is best to listen and talk less.



If You Can’t Be Kind, Be Quiet.- TheWeeklySparkle



I had a dream

adult book boring face
I had a dream. Photo by Pixabay on Pexels.com

Last night I had a dream. I went bowling. I had many strikes and spares! Then the first thing I read this morning was ‘ no dream‘!

Then I would like to add on;

I had a dream, a series of ‘things’,
to carry on in blishful blinks.
If you see the wonders, of a fairy tale,
if you see the devils, in the darkness spell.
I believe in angels, that protect us in the realm of a dream,
‘cos in a dream, a dream’s a dream…

-Serena Chen@TPTan, 24 Dec 2020-


Hope is like the sun…

Hope is like the sun…

silhouette of man standing on sandy terrain
Hope is like the sun… (Photo by Tomas Anunziata on Pexels.com)


Hope is like the sun, which, as we journey toward it, casts the shadow of our burden behind us. – Samuel Smiles



Forgetfulness and mindfulness

Forgetfulness and mindfulness ( A Senryū)

stainless steel cookware on stove
Is the gas off? (Photo by Oleg Magni on Pexels.com)

Have I turned it off?

I went back to the kitchen.

Ah, it was turned off.


Please call my mobile

Have I muted it as well?

Where have I left it?


Practice mindfulness.

Tracking the moments in steps.

Re track the moments.



Use It or Lose It– Experts agree that the best way to keep your brain fit is to keep using it.



Patience and ‘children’

Patience and ‘children’

The quote below talks about patience and children.

But when the child is a ‘child forever’, a carer’s patience is challenged constantly. And I notice sometimes, patience becomes a beautiful second nature melded together in such parents or carer!

Watch this (click here) documentary about a 40 year old autistic man and his caring parents.

man holding an ipad with a message on a yellow background
‘a child forever’ (Photo by MART PRODUCTION on Pexels.com)


“You can learn many things from children. How much patience you have, for instance.” — Franklin P. Jones, American humorist



I came across this inspiring and profound poem ‘ANYWAY’. It hangs on the walls of Mother Teresa’s children home in Calcutta.  I would like to share it with my blogger friends. THE POEM goes like this: –People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered; ‘FORGIVE THEM’ anyway. –If you are kind, people may accuse you of […]

Please read here:-



Thank you for your presence in my absence!

Thank you for your presence in my absence!

Absence? Presence? (Photo by Yaowaluck Promdee on Pexels.com)


The last two months

I step in once in a while

… briefly,

into my blog.


I notice

the presence

of some of you

in ‘my empty class’

looking at my past posts.


Thank you, bloggers,

for stopping by!

Merry Christmas!




Is there someone in the closet?

Is there someone in the closet?

Someone in the closet? (Photo by Ketut Subiyanto on Pexels.com)

I read about Harry Potter’s “No one deserves to live in a closet” and the homosexuals. And Dave Mowry relates about “Stepping Out Of The Mental Health ‘Closet’.”

Then I got sick. I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. My life changed. people looked at me differently. Stop inviting me for coffee and other activities. - Dave Mowry

Stigma affects many people with AIDs, autism, mental disorders, homosexuality, and now, recovered COVID-19. It threatens to imprison them in ‘closets’.

Education and destigmatizing for better societal acceptance are important.

I am special (Photo by RODNAE Productions on Pexels.com)



Stoma-an invisible disability in need of a special toilet!

Stoma-an invisible disability in need of a special toilet!

Teruko Murayama
Teruko Murayama, a director of Japan Ostomy Association became ostomate in 1982 …

Do you know there are people who don’t do their business squatting or sitting on the toilet bowl? They have this invisible disability. They need a special toilet to empty, clean themselves in case of leakage from their stoma and the stoma bag.

According to a JOA (Japanese Ostomy Association) survey, 50% of ostomates reported feeling helpless. Many Japanese ostomates fear leaving home for an active community life. They worry about potential leakage and how to clean their pouches away from home.

Teruko Murayama (above) demanded and initiated a revolutionary change through Japan- an ostomate toilet! She was a director of Japan Ostomy Association when she became ostomate in 1982. She underwent an ostomy surgery for ulcerative colitis and had a stoma.

"... After a couple of humiliating experiences, Murayama realized the need 
for a shower and a place to change the clothing in the public toilet. 

Murayama decided to stand up for two hundred thousand ostomates in Japan, 
declaring that she has a colostomy and started a campaign in 1995 and demanding to local government to install the toilet for ostomate in the public facility. 

First ostomate toilet was built in Narashinoshi city hall in May 1998, ...
and then the campaign quickly spread throughout Japan."

View more about this special ostomate toilet. I wish more countries will adopt this.



Christmas is in the air!

Christmas is in the air!

Christmas atmosphere in Kuala Lumpur
Christmas atmosphere in Kuala Lumpur 2


The malls lit up

in a Christmasy festive mood

amidst COVID-19.

The entrance guard asked

to view vaccination certificates

as people entered with caution

-masked, social distancing

and a little bottle of sanitizer

in their pocket or bag



There can be no lotus flower without the mud.

There can be no lotus flower without the mud.

pink water lily flower on water
no mud, no lotus (Photo by Diego Madrigal on Pexels.com)

Know suffering,

to appreciate happiness.

Taste bitterness,

yet savour its sweetness.

Bear with pain,

to reap gains.



“Most people are afraid of suffering. But suffering is a kind of mud to help the lotus flower of happiness grow. There can be no lotus flower without the mud

Thich Nhat Hanh



Happy Sunday- when are you coming out to play with me?

Happy Sunday- when are you coming out to play with me?

little girl holding her mom s tummy
Kid welcoming unborn sibling (Photo by PNW Production on Pexels.com)

Baby, baby, when are you coming out?
Will you be my brother or my sister?
I have many toys to play with you!
When will you come out to play with me?



“Babies are the buds of life ready to bloom like a fresh flower to refresh humanity.”
Debasish Mridha


Making society and public care

Making society and public care

hands people friends communication
Care (Photo by Pixabay on Pexels.com)


The biggest challenge is how to affect public attitudes and make people care.

Jim Fowler



Flower arranging challenge?

Flower arranging challenge?

unrecognizable florist with flowers in vase and on table
Flower arrangement (Photo by Teona Swift on Pexels.com)

I find flower arrangement can be stimulating mentally, as well as, physically.



“If you think squash is a competitive activity, try flower arranging.”

Alan Bennett


白色谎言-造口术- a white lie

白色谎言-造口术  – a white lie


永远不要说谎。 无论如何-连白谎言都没有。 –玛格丽特·基恩-











但是它已经被删除了。 他们应该能够重新连接













突然体重减轻; 我的便血




对,是真的… ”




















-Serena Chen S.P. @ TPTan –



That is why a special lane is needed!

That is why a special lane is needed!

a family spending time together
Special child (Photo by RODNAE Productions on Pexels.com)


Stop, stop! Wait for me!

A flurry of foot-steps heard,

of men and a mum!


Where are you going?

You want to go to toilet?

Relieved, they found one!


Put on your mask, boy!

He tored and threw it away,

and darted forwards.


After vaccination, a few visibly-disabled persons sat on wheelchairs at the observation bay for disabled. Three men sat nearby calmly and well-behaved. Their carers were besides them.

That odd one reminds me of two teenagers who went for an excursion to a zoo. Both of them were always looking for toilets. A possible drug induced side-effect is polyuria.

This incidence is an example to show why a special lane is needed for people with disabilities, including counters at banks, post-office, and groceries.



An amazing canvas above us

An amazing canvas above us

The varying force of sun energy
paints the sky with a splattering
of temperamental clouds
against the silhouette in the horizon
creates an amazing canvas above!

-Toh HL co author and photographer, 19 May 2021


Shadow pandemic: Insecurity within the ‘security’ of a home

Shadow pandemic: Insecurity within the ‘security’ of a home (poem)

three pairs of shoes on brown rug
A family (Photo by Lisa on Pexels.com)
a home where love starts,
as family protector,
he safeguards them all. 

a lover monster,
a demon he has become,
admist failing roles?

run, run, lady, run!
bring along babies and run!
least he catches up!

please help the victims,
aggressor 'victim' as well,
with his unseen pain!

Shadow pandemic echoes the Covid-19’s pandemic. As COVID-19 curfews and lockdown orders made it even more difficult for the battered victims to leave an abusive household. This increases the likelihood of recurring domestic violence.

Looking at the ‘elephant’ as a whole, the aggressor maybe a victim of circumstances ( such as, financial) or addiction. He would need help, too!


Much have been in place for the abused. As per quote below, I wonder what is next for the abuser behind bars to prevent recurring behaviors and attitudes.



“Victims of domestic violence need assistance and deserve justice, I commend the crime unit’s efforts to put offenders behind bars and reach out to victims.”– Bob Riley


See how she evolves!

See how she evolves!

Courtesy of Florence J, a former student

Found her on social media

qualified with diploma in agriculture,

degree in nursing and then,

masters in counseling.

Finally, she found her niche as a counselor!

Great to see

a bright former student

as a mother,

and growing beautifully

in person and in career

with passing years!