Should a wife clean after one’s poop?

Should a wife clean after one’s poop?

Pooping business (Photo by Tim Mossholder on

People with bowel-diversion surgeries

defecate through a stoma, new opening on their tummy.


“Hi, I just finished my board meeting

in my hospital room (proudly).

I heard you want to see if

we are managing the stoma alright?”


“The last three months,

my wife manages it very well!

There is no bag leakage,

and the skin around the stoma is OK!”


His wife wrinkled her nose,

and proceeded to remove

his stoma bag full of faecal matter.

He was not looking at his stoma or the bag.

He was reading a large daily newspaper!


“Ok, now go to the bathroom and shower.”

“But, but water will go inside my stoma!”

“No, it won’t!”


He came out feeling fresh and happy

“This is the first time I bathe since operation!”

I guided his hands to apply the bag

over his stoma himself.


“Let prepare the bag for the next application.

When I come tomorrow, you will remove

and apply the bag yourself, will you?”


“Oh, it’s so easy to apply a stoma bag!

I was so scared to touch it before!”

… much to the relief of his wife!


No man would have wanted to do his business, and have his spouse to clean his bottom… or the stoma!

The nurses were afraid to slight him. And his spouse was reluctantly obedient. Sometimes, VIP patients need to counselled and coaxed!


Published by Chen Song Ping @ TPTan

Chen S.P. enjoys pottery works, cartoons, painting and poems. She shares insightful experiences about being a carer for people with mental illness and cancer.

3 thoughts on “Should a wife clean after one’s poop?

  1. The reversal is also common. Increasingly common is the placement of stomas in younger people — in their 20s and early 30s — due to lack of screening for colorectal cancer. For a young couple, that’s another level of commitment. Imagine looking forward to 60 or 70 years of having to do this.

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