Death: a solace and comfort because God loves him more

Death: a solace and comfort because God loves him more

woman comforting desperate girlfriend and embracing gently
Photo by Liza Summer on

When I was a young nurse in ER, a young motor vehicle accident victim died. His parents and siblings cried. A Muslim nurse consoled them and said, ” don’t cry. God loves him more!”

No! How can you stop them from crying?

Different cultures approach death differently. To them, it’s a solace and comfort to know that he will be in a better place!



I hold the view that death is rather like changing one’s clothes when they are torn and old. It is not an end in itself. Yet death is unpredictable-you do not know when and how it will take place.- Dalai Lama

A girl calls and asks, “Does it hurt very much to die?””Well, sweetheart,” I tell her, “yes, but it hurts a lot more to keep living.- Chuck Palahniuk, Survivor


Waiting at a corner of the room

Waiting at a corner of the room (a Senryū)

Go, go look after 
your siblings and the cafe 
Pa's waiting for me.

This Senryū is about a mother telling her children to go home. She reminded them to look after their younger siblings and their coffee shop. This lady pointed to her late husband waiting at a corner of the ICU room.

grayscale photography of sitting man
Waiting… (Photo by Alessio Cesario on


  1. “Even death is not to be feared by one who has lived wisely.” – Buddha
  2. No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want to die to get there. And yet, death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it, and that is how it should be, because death is very likely the single best invention of life. It’s life’s change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new.” – Steve Jobs


Postscript: She is up there now…

Post script : She is up there now, twinkling from above!

This is a postscript to “A Penny For Your Thought?”

Postscript: She is up there now…

Wen Li was such a perceptive little being!

If one thinks, talking to children about birds and bees would be difficult, this one about ‘living and dying’ is another challenging one!

“My mother never taught me about this, nor did my school!” Li Na thought to herself.

Perhaps, that’s why stories always had it this way, “… she has gone to heaven, and angels are looking after her now. Look at the stars! She is up there now, twinkling from above!
She is now an angel. Put your hands together, and say hello!”

Wen Li closed her eyes and her hands together, “May you be happy up there!”

Tomb visiting: Embracing life impermanence

Tomb visiting: Embracing life impermanence

A reminder of life impermanence (Photo by Arina Krasnikova on


Once I was cradled in your arm,

so warm, so comforting.

Once I was fed on your bosom,

so nourishing, so fulfilling.

Once I rode on your shoulder,

so happy, such fun!

Once I was created inside you,

such a wonder is life!

Now you both lie in here,

back to dust, back to earth,

embracing the truths of life,

such is, life impermanence!


Balancing delicately between the two evils…

Balancing delicately between the two evils…

Photo by Jess Loiterton on

Lockdown is on!

Lockdown is off!

Not because it is safe now.

It’s to prevent the economy

from diving under!


Thousands throng the beach,

and camp near waterfalls,

while hospitals continue to battle virus

and vans with caskets lined up

near burial grounds.

Many shudder at the ignorance

“Are lives so insignificant?”


What will it take

for reality to sink-in

to convince them?

Or has a sense of hopelessness

breeds insensitivity

to block out fear and pain?


Safety and health

or economy?

It’s a delicate balancing act!


From womb to tomb

From womb to tomb

Birth (Photo by Rene Asmussen on

“Nurses are there when the last breath is taken, and nurses are there when the first breath is taken.” – Christine Bell

Tomb (Photo by Tom Fisk on


Sleeping toes touching toes

Sleeping toes touching toes

woods covered with snow
Photo by Mikhail Nilov on

It’s wintery cold

lying face-to-face they sleep

bolster in-between


their toes touching toes

to know the other is warm,

alive and kicking.


An old aunt describes above how old people sleep and check each other under the blanket during cold winters.


Increased winter mortality is reported as an important public health matter in China.

In U.S. death rates in winter months have been 8 to 12 percent higher.